double chocolate toasted coconut cookies will be your valentine

Happy Valentine's Day!

Every year, I like to take this day to reflect on all of the mistakes I've ever dated. Let's talk about ex-boyfriends!

One of my ex-boyfriends broke up with me seven times.

One of my ex-boyfriends cheated on me with one of my friends.

One of my ex-boyfriends told all of his friends that he wanted to break up with me a few months before he actually broke up with me. One of my ex-boyfriends broke up with me right before Valentine's Day. Oh wait, that was the same guy.

But double chocolate toasted coconut cookies? They've never cheated on me. They've never told me they had to work late and then go to strip clubs instead. They've never hand-painted a love lock for my birthday and then told me a couple months later that they don't want to be in a serious relationship. They've never told their best friend to call me to apologize on their behalf because they can't man up and do it themselves. They've never broken up with me the day before my birthday because they didn't feel like buying me a present.

my kind of valentine

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Last month the New York Times published an article called "To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This" as part of their Modern Love series. In it, the author shared a story of how she used a method developed by a psychologist to fall in love with a male acquaintance. The method involves asking each other 36 specific questions and then, at the very end, staring into one another's eyes for four minutes. The questions progress from typical icebreakers ("What would constitute a 'perfect' day for you?") to diary-only territory ("If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you must regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?").

You know what else the New York Times loves to talk about lately? Self-absorbed social activists unashamedly living in their parent's basement. Jobless left wing selfie aficionados. Binge-drinking environmentally conscious dating app veterans. Unpaid interns. Startup founders. Social media celebrities. That's right - I'm talking millennials. The seemingly contradictory and totally fascinating generation.

hold your horses, i'm getting to this in a second

Well I tweaked the list of 36 questions and the four minute exercise in a way that's specifically designed to make millennials fall in love - just in time for Valentine's Day! (Bonus: you can see the original question if you hover over the text.)

To fall in love as a millennial, do this: